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CHAPTER V.

SOCIAL DUTIES OF THE SCHOOL-GIRL.

Power of Oratory. Constant Impression. Almost a Nun.

Poor Relations forgotten. Small Coin of Life. Professor Francke's Advice. Crows' Nests. A Beautiful Comparison. The always Miserable. Mirth and Cheerfulness. What you will desire to recal. Severest Punishment. Out of our own Shadow. School-girls not Matrons. One Burden lightened. Desperate Intimacies. Carry Sunshine with you. Not afraid of Responsibility.

The tongue was given us as a means of pleasure, of mental and moral improvement. The human voice is the most powerful instrument to move the soul, so far as we know, that ever came from the hand of God. And the mightiest power which this instrument can exert is in speech. The utterance of music can thrill to a very high degree; but there are only a very few who are greatly moved

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by it.

It requires a peculiar organization of the human body to feel the full power of music. But every body is carried away by the orator, He can move and sway the heart, and thus the feelings, the mind, the actions, and the whole man, as no songster can ever do. There is no voice that will startle or move you like the voice of human agony. In our daily social intercourse, we use the voice as the great instrument by which to communicate our thoughts and feelings. This includes the words uttered, the tones and cadences of the voice, and the countenance of the speaker. It is the shortest and surest method by which one mind can reach and communicate with another. And conversation, which usually includes all our social intercourse with one another, is always and at all times for good or for evil. You make a constant impression of some kind or other on all with whom you come in contact.

One of the difficulties of the school-girl, in regard to this subject, is, that she feels no responsibility in regard to her social intercourse with her companions. To be sures

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she would not insult an instructor, and she would not be rude and unlady-like before visitors, and she would not be untidy in her personal appearance in the school-room, but in private, when with none but her mates, may she not throw off responsibility and say and do what she pleases ? I reply, Yes, if she pleases to say and to do only what is proper and becoming. Some young ladies, on going to school and meeting new-comers, are fond of entertaining their new friends with doleful accounts of their personal sufferings,— what unheard of sacrifices they are making to attend school; what very fine houses and furni

; ture, horses and dresses, they are leaving be

what genteel society they have moved in; and how awful it is thus to be shut away and secluded in the crowded room of the school ! She seems to repine most of all, if she could only express herself, that she finds a new standard of measurement in her new position, that houses and furniture, horses, dresses, and even admirers, are nothing here ; but is she a scholar ? Has she mind and diligence, industry and a desire to improve ?

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Some want to talk only about themselves, and what pertains to themselves. And perhaps selfishness, the most unpardonable selfishness in the world, is manifested in our daily social intercourse. We want to spend the time in talking about ourselves or our great and rich friends, but say , very little about our poor relations, though every body has poor relations, however high they may carry their heads. It is a great talent to be able to be agreeable in conversation. The great secret of it is to be willing to forget yourself, and try to please others. “ To hear patiently and to answer precisely,” says Rochefoucault,

are the great perfections of conversation. One reason why we meet so few persons who are reasonable and agreeable in conversation is, that there is scarcely any one who does not think more of what he has to say than of answering what is said to him.” When you hear another talk, do not try to think what you are to say when he stops. Fix your mind and keep your mind on what he is saying, and your reply will come of itself, if you have any reply.

any reply. The great secret of

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SMALL COIN OF LIFE.

making others happy in our intercourse with them is to forget ourselves entirely, and let all our interests, for the time, be swallowed up in theirs. “ Our happiness depends less upon the art of pleasing than upon a uniform disposition to please. The difference is that which exists between ceremony and sincerity.” It is not merely for the sake of passing your time, or of being entertained, that you have intercourse one with another. But you wish to make it an influence in sweetening the disposition, cultivating your kind feelings, and drawing out your benevolence. It is the small coin of life, no one piece of which is of very great value, but with it we make vastly more purchases than with our bank-notes and heavy gold.

It is in the power of most school-girls to learn about conversation at school, as well as about books, than anywhere else.

Here you are equals : and every one has the power of directing the conversation in the right way for improvement. Cultivate," says

says Professor Francke," a talent for directing the conversation in a proper channel. Never change

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