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months, especially January, which for isls between the junior and the elder that
called yopenhour ; branches of the families concerned hence one of the characters in Terence the romantic sensibilities of the former affirms, the soothsayers had forbidden are counteracted by the prudential disto enter upon matrimony till winter sent of the latter-contradiction aug.
meuls the flame, god fans it joto an Aruspex vetuit anle brumam autem quid novi
ardour which the young people decide Negotii incipere
is irresistible-it consuides all filial re“ Until the seasonable time of year,
flection-and in a moment which they When frosty weather binds all things, the
choose to consider as a favourable oppriest, Counsell'd us by all means to put off mar
portunity of breaking through all pariage."
rental restraint, they throw themselves I could not refrain from thus remind.
upon the issue of one irretrievable reing those inclined to wedlock of the solve, as the point of possibility on
which all the success, prosperity, and propitiousness of the present season to an undertaking so desirable ; if at least happiness of their future life are prewe may credit the authority of Martial, to be estimated according to its pri
cariously suspended.-Now if love is one of those persons not much in the habit of patronizing the doleful; by mary principles of generous anxiety to nature, on the contrary, a very merry shall not readily discover its original
promote the welfare of its object, we fellow, indeed by far too merry, who, in his enumeration of the expedients to a
character in such precipitancy of the
will--for when its gratification is sought happy life, mentious, amongst the rest,
at the expense of any virtue, the pura good wife; or, as he felicitously ex.
suit must parlake of the nature of presses “Non trislis lorus, el lamen
vice; and any young man and woman pudicus."
who feel no hesitation at involving
each other in a probable evil, cannot posA CONVERSAZIONE.
sess those exalled seu timents of dis(Continued from Vol. LXXII. page 506.) affection is uniformly regulated.
interested regard, by which a moral TEXT to love at first sight,” said I might follow up this assertion by the
may be reckoned continual evidence of its truth wbich that flight of passion called a run-away such improvident unions are daily prematch. It would doubtless be a matter senting to our observation. There apof some difficulty to persuade a panling pears, indeed, to be a kind of retri. couple, in the midst of their race to the butive judgment following them, which hymeneal altar, that they have inis. excludes them as it were from that felitaken the ignis fuluus of rash desire for citous enjoyment which the parties too the pure light of genuine affection, and rashly promised themselves.' It would that true love cannot exist in the breast seem as if the violation of filial duty of either, if each does not consult the bears with it the brand of divine disbappiness of the other, rather than the pleasure in the disappointment. For consummation of an attachment which, certain it is, that if love, or that paslike the iron.cement, holds together no sion of the mind which inclines the longer than while it is kept out of hot sexes to cach other, be the principle water. I venture, however, to assert, which originates resistance to parental that all the consequences of such a self- authority in the hearts of two young constructed union converge towards a persons, it is in such instances of a premature dissolution of every lie which questionable nature, and may justly both religion and nature combine to be regarded as a mere selfish emotion, form as the suresl nedium of conjogal which induces them lo consult their felicity-and that love, under the in individual satisfaction at all risks, even Buence of which the hasty connexion of their own future comfort :—and as is formed, is utterly devoid of affec. filial piety is the purest affection that tionate consideration, as far as its sen can have possession of the human sitiveness acts before marriage and its breast, any attachment that makes the sympathies after. In the first instance, sacrifice of this lovely virtue necessary let it be supposed that two young per. to ensure its success, must be devoid of sons meet, fall in love, and go tbrough tbat ingenuousness which constitutes the whole routine of susteptitious in the most engaging quality of wers tercourse a difference of opinion ex. young person's social character.
, therefore, to be wondered at, if the blameable party :-since, with whatwhat is begun with the surrender of ever ardour the lover may press bis suit,
one moral obligation, should lead to if he would gain her confidence at the lore the disregard of another :--and it may expense of that which she should put ta be fairly inferred, that a disobedient in her parents, she ought instantly
daughter will never make an affection. to suspect his motives, and resist his ate wife."
presumption." Here the romance of Miss Julia's “I believe, Mr. ," observed Hammad took alarm-" Good Heavens! the Baronet's Sister, “ these glaring
you mean to throw all improprieties seldom happen but among be the odium which you take upon your. the weakest and the vainest of our sex.
self to attach to what you are pleased Pride, caprice, and a foolish notion
to call run-away matches,-upon the of notoriety, as often lead to them bilen female ? Really, Sir, I could almost
as love." call this illiberal-Can you suppose that “ And I'll tell you, sister,” cried the ang young woman would be so inde Baronet,“ how these previous qua. licate as io propose an elopement to lities are engendered in a young girl's her lover :-If she becomes disobedient, mind-those pestiferous productions, who makes ber so ? Surely he who takes novels, which poison her sensibilities an undue advantage of his influence with the contamination of a thousand over her."
romantic follies, persuade her that My good young lady,” replied she is born to be a heroine, and that Mr.
"what can I say to rescue the wise precaution of her parents is bug' myself froin so heavy an accusation? nothing less than persecution, and du
I would not be deficient in respect for tifulness nothing more than a tamo
talk of. I do not presume to declare of those adventitious qualificatious press that the female makes the proposal which may be observed by a daughter
go so far as to insist, that while just so long as it does not interfere she carries on a correspondence and with ber more empassioned fervours; Dit > intimacy which she is cooscious are con and that the anxieties of a parent are
trary to the will and the knowledge only the pretexts of ignorant superof her parents, if she has any thing stition, or the unwarrautable assumpat all in view, she must pecessarily tions of tyrannical usurpation, in opexpect that the clandestine offer will position to those natural rigbts of selfbe made to ber ; and there is, I think, government to which they assert every as much indelicacy in this part of her daughter of Eve has an unalienableclaim
conduct, as there would be in the pro. from the moment that her heart becomes be posal wbich you hint at.— And let me susceptible of contrary inclinations to
reply to your other question, by asking those which duty demands.” you why she should be disobedient at “And do you not think, Mr. T-" all -You will doubtless admit, that said the Manager, “ that some of our the duty is more to be esteemed than Pièces du Theolre inculcate a tolerable any thing or any person that may pre- large proportion of this same self.comTail upon us to break tbrough it ; and placency ; especially those which the let it be allowed by you also, that morbid feeling of the German school bas so long as she is anxious to fulfil her produced—in which it is représented to duty, no undue influence will persuade be the very excellence of a young wober to the contrary-and that certainly man's wisdom to outwit the old folks, may be called an undue influence wbich aod to squander every prudential resersubverts a better principle than the vation with which their parental care onc it substitutes. In fact, I must had stored her mind, upon the first unbazard your displeasure, if I am to principled fellow who can flatter het speak the truth upon this point, -the into the belief that he bas a greater female is, in pine cases out of ten, claim to her heart than they."
“ Whatever may be the source of parent perceives the growing tendresse, such misjudging condnct,” replied Mr. and calculating very differently for their
the result is too frequently daughter's future condition in life, from found to be altogether adverse to that what she herself does, imposes an aueven teoor of conjugal consideration thoritative interdict upon all contiwhich ought always to blend a wife's nualion of the acquaintance. Then affection with her duties. These du- she finds herself placed precisely in the tics I do not pretend to discuss, but situation of some hopeless love-sick it may be decided upon I fear with heroine of romance ; laments her mitoo much evidence against the wife, serable fate, exclaims against the hardthat the neglect of them proves be- heartedness which thus crosses ber first yood a doubt the entire absence of love, begins a clandestine correspondgnuine regard for her husband and ence, and finishes it by leaving a letter her children; this at once exposes upon her toilette, to acquaint those the inconsiderateness with which the who gave her birth, and brought her first attachment was formed, and shews up in parental indulgence, that she that she mistook a childisb flutt-r could no longer live without the object of passion for the more amiable sted- of her affections, that she bas yielded to fastness of ingenuous love. It is not his generous and disinterested importhen so difficult as it might be sup- tunities, avd by the time that tbey shall posed, to distinguish such a passion have read that letter she will most profrom that affectionate anxicty which bably have united with his name and a good wife will always display to con fortune the future condition of their salt and secure the happiness of her dutiful daughter ! husband, as indissolubly united with Now | pronounce it impossible that her own."
such a girl can ever make an affectionate The Manager's Wife here interposed partner for life and although she deher opinion, that “She seldom knew serves no pity, yet perhaps we may be any sensible girl, whose mind was con somewhat inclined to assert, that her pasistently improved by a sound educa reuts themselves may be considered as in tion, that had allowed herself to discard great degree the authors of her folly and thus uphesitatingly all prudential re their own disappointment, from the upllection, and precipitate herself into so wise gratification which they felt at the rash a debasement of her sex's dignity, outside acquirements which ihey were so and so improvident a forfeiture of her anxious she should possess, even to the claini to the respectful regards of so- neglect of the more substantial culti. ciely. Perhaps' Mr. mag add valivo of her head and heart. As soon anoiber cause for the consequence as this accomplished young lady awakes which he has made out. The frippery from the dream of her vanity, she finds of a fashionable female boarding-school the fond vision in which all her romapis, I think, well calculated to produce tic expectations were absorbed, fled for those vain ideas of personal influence, ever-and all the reality of her fate which lead a silly Miss who has just left opens upon her. The flippant professchool, to take it for granted that every sions of her husband cease- the admira. man who sees her must fall in love with tion which her school-girl qualifications her; and that the superficial accom raised in his breast is exchanged for plishments which she has wasted ber a cold tolerance; and he with whom time and the property of her parents she was content to pass her life in a in acquiring, must make an irresistible cottage, now grows weary of the sameimpression upon every young fellow vess of repetition with which she ruos whom she condescends to indulge with over the artificial catalogue. Her pride the display of thein. Hence it often becomes burt, and she bas recourse to happens, that some foppish boy as sense remonstrance-but the complaint of less as herself regards her as a paragon pride is always made with that selfof feinale attraction. -- flatlers her into reference which shuts our heart against the same conviction : breathes out a its plea-from remonstrance to refew unmeaning protestations of up. proach the interval is but small-The alterable devotion to her charms, and chapter of love is brought to an endpursues, by his frivolous attentions, the and mutual indifference fills up the readvantage which her vanity permits maining pages of the story." him to suppose he has gained over her "Oh, dear madam !” exclained Miss pride; until the vigilant eye of the Julia, “what a frightful picture bare
you drawi-if such be the unvaried se. their wretchedness will not proceed quel of these unions, where can affec- from any self.npbraidings of disobetion be found ?"
dience towards their parents - and al“Where?" cried the Baronet; "why low me to tell you, sister, that I know in the experience of parents, to be sure, many a girl, who, after having mar. child-Only let that regulate your choice, ried for love, as the saying is, would and depend upon it you will never have give her whole stock of it for the car. yourself to blame."
riage which she rejected.” “ But, Sir B -, are parents to fall Then all I can say,” replied the in love for their children ?" asked Cap. Sister, “is, that such a girl deserves tain Otto.
to be wretched-and the natural in. "Or,” cried the Baronet's Sister, “are ference to be drawn from your reprethey to command them to love by a sentation of her mind, can be notbiog scale of proportion, graduated according else than this, that it could never know to tbe rise and fall of stocks, or the va. what uofeigned affection is, and wbether Jue of land ?"
sbe rode in her carriage or not, she must “ Or," added the Journalist, “ are be equally disqualified by such a printhey to carry their happiness to market, ciple for making either herself or her and employ their parents as the brokers husband happy.” to dispose of it to the higbest bidder?” Here the City Curate, fiuding that
." Why truly, good people,” replied the Baronet's Sister possessed so conga Sir B “ it seems that none of you nial a turn of sentiment with his own recollect bow very promptly these run hopes, insinuated, with a due portion of away gentry take upon themselves to cautious deference, “ that doubtless it dispose of their parents' property as was bighly becoming of children to well as of themselves -and I do not see attend to the wishes of their parents why tbis should be the case without in so momentous a concern as that their condesceoding to ask some pre of marriage, yet it might, perbaps, vious consent to both. Suppose, there. be urged, on the other hand, that fore, that this consent be withheld, and it was the duty of parents also to upon the grounds of sober-minded re consult the wishes of their children, flection, do you dot thiok that the de when their acquiescence would not at cision demands some deference from the all prevent them from being respectably children? Or is Love so good a fivan. settled in life, for nothing could be cier as to be able to produce supplies more true than that wealth alone could for the exigencies of the married state, never beslow happiness; and I am sure out of a few rhapsodical epistles, or the Sir B-thinks with me, that it should more real sufferings of ao unavailing not be inade the sole object, when so repentance. Every old woman in the inuch is at stake as the felicity of a parish bas an answer ready,
• When whole existence." Poverty comes in at the door, Love The Baronet turned upon his chair fies out at the window' - Marry in with much deliberation;
and lifting haste, aud repent at leisure'— And what one leg over the opposite knee, rethiok you will become of affection when marked, in a sarcastic tone, that “ dissatisfaction attends the performance thing could be more true than the of duty. How can two people live upon Reverend Gentleman's observation, affectionate terms, who every hour of and he had no doubt of his concurs their lives see new cause for being dis. rence in the suggestion, that if wealth coplented with each other ;"
alone could not bestow happiness, po“ But, my dear brother," rejoined the verty alone had as little power to effect Avot of Júlia, "have we noi frequent it, and that of the two, perhaps, the instances of girls being made wretched preference might be challenged for the for ever who have been extolled as mir- former, as better providing for the prorors of filial obedience, because they bable attainment of it than the respecsusrendered a justifiable affection to the table settlement of a single curacy with Caprice of parenis, or, if you please, lo the double burden of an unportioned their great care, in placing their chil wife.” dren, in a higher condition of life than The Curate made an effort to Jaugh that to which they were theinselves off the repulse which he had received ; willing to aspire ?"
and taking a pinch of stuff out of the " It may be so," said the Baronet, Manager's box, which was most opbox and then ; but at all events, portunely opened at the instant, afEurop. Mag. l'ol. LXXIII. Jan. 1818.
and Lady TCe
fected to enjoy the rude remark of the up for it," said the Baronet, " when Baronet, by assuring him, “ that be you get home, I'll warrant you.-And should rather be preferred to a good as some recompense for Mr. 'skind living first, before be married for willingness to solve your paradox, I love."
heartily wish you all the inclination to Mr. now reminded the parties obey which he has shewn to entertain." who had joined in this conversation, This candid wish of Sir B“ that as he might hope he had proved swered by a Humph! scarcely articu. his position, that a woman might love Jated through the teeth, and by a sigui. without affection, and that woman a ficant glance at Lady S-; who rewife too, he would trespass a moment plied by another Humph! somewhat Jonger by carrying on the proof, to more emphatic than her friend's and demonstrate that she might also obey both again resumed their former affectwithout the will.' Perhaps,” conti ed indifference, when Mr. pro. nued he, “this will naturally follow ceeded with his argument. from the other since wife who does
(To be continued.) not admit affection among her conjugal essentials, will hardly be found To the Editor of the European Magazine. to adopt obedience as the spontaneous effort of her will."
nie prevalence of the disease called By this time Mrs. Shad altered their quiescent posi- various and opposite methods by which tion-and the former looking at her its cure is attempted, by those who are husband with a frown that she attempt not in the habit of consulting a medical ed to blend with a half smile, but which practitioner, form a sufficient excuse for only produced a sneer by the unpa my troubling you with the following tural combination, begged, for G-d's remarks, which are intended to estasake, he would bring bis long-winded blish a plan of treatment more appro. dissertation to an end" I really feel, priate to the disease than wbat is usually Miss G -," observed the wedded adapted. Dame, “ that I ought to apologize to Catarrh is very frequently the prethe company for my unlucky obser cursor of more dangerous diseases vation, since it has been the cause and therefore it requires more atten.' of involving you all in as dull a train tion than is commonly paid to it. The of reasoning as ever proceeded from symptoms, by which it is characterized, the lips of any of the lords of the crea are so generally known, as to require tion-Good Sir," addressing Mr. DO enumeration. When it proceeds " have some mercy upon our time, from common causes, and the concowhich I humbly conceive might be mitant fever appears of an inflamma. much better employed. — You "forget tory nature, the first thing to be done that Mr. B had promised to sing is to reduce the febrile action of the that sweet song, ‘Love has eyes.'' system. This may be effected, first, Upon my word,” said 'Mr.
by bleeding, which, however, should I
am sorry to bave deprived the only be had recourse to when the sympcompany of so great a treat, and I toms are very violent; secondly, by am ready to resign my subject to so saline purges ; as, excellent a substitute.'
Epsom salts, 6 drams; « No! No! Mr. -,' exclaimed Infusion of senpa, 12 drams; the Baronet." you must finish your Tincture of senna, I dram; task, and your good lady must exemplify Simple syrup, i dram : the subject-you, Madam, must. obey Mix for a draught. without the will,' and listen like an Or, Powdered rhubarb, i scruple ; obedient wife to the farther observa. Sal polychrest, 1 dram: tions of your worthy husband."
Mix for a dose. “ Well,” rejoined Mrs. -, “I
Either the dranght, or powder, should think I bave the greater task imposed be taken at the commencement of the upon mebut, tbank Heaven! I do symptoms, and repeated, if the state not suffer alone -so pray, worthy Sir, of the bowels require it. as Sir B dignifies you, go on - Saline diophoretics should next be but be pleased to bear in mind that administered; as, it is near twelve o'clock, and you have Water of acetate of ammonia, one bad all the talk to yourself.”
ounce and a half ; · Nover mind, Madam, you'll make Distilled water, 6 QUOCCS ;