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vow in pieces-for give me leave to lying in visit ; when, as the tears of joy say, that a woman's will is never justis stood in her eye, she thus addressed me fied by opposing that of her husband, “Ah! Mr. how happy am I now,when his claim to ber obedience is I feel that Mr. A-has, by his tender, grounded upon a judicious conviction yet firm, resistance to my foolish waythat his resolve is consistent with her wardness, taught me to prize real bleshappiness.”
sings-1 ought to value them-With this Mr. then took up the argument dear object in my lap, I feel myself a new again; and willing, as I conjectured, to creature-I am no longer the child of turu the more pleasing side of the ques. caprice and the victim of discontent tion to the contemplation of the com -I am a mother, and have the double pany, declared that bo had been gra- obligation to fulfil, of a beloved wife tified witb the evidence of a completely and a provident parent-in short, my happy woman that very morning, in dear Sir, you see me quite an altered the instance of a brother curate's wife woman-I look back upon my former -She was born to bigher expectations unconformable conduct with shame and than those wbich the scanty stipend contrition-A was right; his heart of her husband permitted her to in- wasguided by his understanding-which dulge--and at first so far forgot the you know is excellent-He was a busduty which she owed to herself,
as well band, and he justly pressed the authoas to him, that she disdained all con- rity of his dictatos. As a lover, he sideration of his condition, and insisted woo'd me-as the object of my choice, upon many expensive indulgences, to I married him-but as the partner of which she persuaded herself she was my days, he had too strong an interest entitled, by virtue of those circuni in my real happiness to suffer me to stances in which she had lived previous become my worst enemy, and the unto marriage. The husband remon natural adversary of his fondest hopes.strated, the wife murmured— My dear I rejoice now in what I once deploredMrs. A-, I cannot afford it.' - Mr. and there is nothing that I should more A-, I have always been used to it, lament than to find myself again under and I cannot do without it-What would the government of a disposition so hosmy, poor father say, if he were alive, tile to our mutual satisfaction as that and saw his daughter, bis poor favour- which made me a murmurer even against ite, reduced to such privations ?? my own and his best consolations.From murmurs she would change her Look at this dear babe !-
Asays battery to tears and hysterics-and it is the picture of me-God forbid when ihese failed her, she would try that any likeness should exist in the to sap the firmness of his resolution, infant to what I have been-This must by telling him, that he did not love be my care-my most earnest concern her so ardently as he pretended ; and -and this it shall be-She is to be then she would call bim her dear named after me—and I must take care Mr. A her good Mr. A that my infant Mary shall grow up “ No! No! I am sure you only did it to be a blessing to us both. Belicve to try mc-my own A
me, my worthy friend, a woman knows wish to make his dear Mary unhappy.' not balf her worth, until she bas learned — Still, however, my friend remained to despise the foibles and to estimate inflexible; and at length, when she the virtues of her sex.' found she could not prevail, she would • I commended her sentiments, and look into her own store of reasons, congratulated her upon having made a and being a woman of good sense in discovery which could not fail to render the main, she at last suffered ber better her a happy woman- My old assoconvictions to have their proper in- ciate A said I, 'possesses an ex. floence-Weaned thus by degrees from cellent heart-he loves you with that the little petulancies of an inconsiderate affection which is always the purest, opposition, she in a short time brought because it induces a man to prefer the herself to submit at a word to decisions happiness of her who is the object of which she was conscious were just, and his food regards to his own. When he to surrender aoxieties which she knew began, what you will allow me to term, were unworthy of her as altogether iu the wholesome discipline of disappointcompatible with ber true felicity–Hea- ment, be saw that this was the sorest ven has lately blessed their union with method of preventing greater afflic. a lovely infant, and I yesterday paid the tions—had be been selfish in his love,
he would have suffered you to go on in the virtues of our's bave not an over. your heedless course of inconsideration awing power, to which the vilest do not --but he rightly judged, that as you in voluntarily submit the dogmata of were to travel with him through that their libertinism.-There are, I know, path of life in which you blended your some beings, I can scarcely dignify future condition with bis own, it was them with ibe appellation of men, who, no more than consulting the peace of ushered into life at an early age, and both, to unite your inclioatious with under the very unpropitious auspices his — It was a short but a painful of the most depraved associates, have season of probation ; but depend upon imbibed an opinion of women in geneit, Mrs. A-, affection in a man is ral, only from the lowest and loosest never more genuine than when it can characters among them, whose infamy, discover, and is anxious to correct, in indeed, has originated in the iniquitous the object of its attachment, those arts of the worst of your sex.—1 have weaknesses which prevent the nobler thus prefaced the short history which I qualities of the mind from asserting am about to relate, because it will shew their due ioluence over it. You have, how little a female, and that female a in such conduct, the most convincing married woman, can depend upon that proof of your husbaud's truth of attach- very will in the instant of danger, which meut ; for the person whom we love, she has asserted as a law of sufficient we wish to see in all things ainiable claim to absolve her from the impor-You have yielded to your busband's tant duties of a wife and a mother, in wish-and in his will you have found the more propitious season of bappier the most satisfactory accomplishmeut opportunities. - Among my husband's of your own.'- I then rose io depart, college acquaintances, was a very estibut did not leave the room before I mable young man, who, after signalizing engaged, in compliance with her re bimself at the University of Oxford, in quest, to stand as godfather to the a way that opened to him tbe most httle Mary.-Mr. A accompanied brilliant prospects of collegiate preferme to the door ; and, as he held it ment,-married a boyden girl, who was open with one hand, he shook mine the only child of an open-hearted fox.. beartily with the other, and bid me hunting farmer of substance in the vil"good morning" in a tone of voice that lage of which he was curate. at once convinced me he felt assured The girl bad been accustomed to of the sincerity of his wife in all that she consider herself as privileged by the had said."
tolerance of those who koew her before Well, Mr. -” exclaimed the marriage, in many actions of self-will Manager's Lady, who had so recently which nothing but the apparent inge. espressed herself somewhat severely nuousness of her disposition, could upon the follies of young women who have reconciled to their ideas of femihad been perverted by the suppositi- nine propriety — Poor M— bad a spice tious accomplishments of a fashionable of the roinantic in his composition, and education, from the real excellencies he traced her wild unrestrained deof female worth, “I must adınit that portment, all the graces of a Dianayour picture is faithfully drawn-I only she was in short, the very child of wish ibat more of my untoward sisters nature, which he fondly persuaded him. could find their owu features of cor self he could forın to his will; and rected feeling portrayed in it. — But model in all the purity of mind, so as I have a portrait of rather an opposite to make her the ornament of her sex, nature to present you with, which I and the delight of his life. He married do very unfeignedlý regret, because I her--but as she had never allowed berwoold have my own sex command, in self to contemplate what were the pruevery instance, the truest criterion of dential characteristics of a wife, she of its excellence, the respectful esteem of course had left out of her calculation your's. There are indeed many those proprielies which belonged to the wretches among you men, who in the condition of a married woman- the nalawless pursuit of a worthless passion tural result of all this, was an improvident exult in the degradation of a hapless carelessness in the managemeat of his female to the base level of their own household, and a flippant negligence of corrupt desires-but for the honour of all those decorums, which are always human nature, we will not suppose that, expected in a clergyman's wife.—bvery eren in the most picious of your sex, one who kucw him foreboded ill of the
match--but he, blinded by his attach- to reflect but for a moment - she ment to her, saw no defect in her con bewailed her folly in not having reduct, and actually quarrelled with all Rected for that moment, before she bis relations and friends who, feeling married parson Gimgrack was for his clerical reputation, ventured to brought to the door, she mounted and remoustrate with him upon bis un rode off full swing for her father's house bounded indulgence of the capricious --on the road she overtook a member wbims of bis wife.--At length the lady of the County hunt-he extolled her hecame a mother, or rather, she pre- riding--she told him whither sbe was sonted him with a child, for, mother, going-be inveighed against the cause, was a word to which she altached no as a barbarous and unfeeling act of desother idea, than the tedious confine- potism on the part of her husband, ment to wbich it doomed her-natu- who," although he had tbe honor of rally affectionate, but, I believe I must calling him friend, was by no mean's the add, foolishly food, he sacrificed all his man he took hien for"-She agreed in wiser impressions of right and wrong, bis opinion-assuring him that he had to her girlish repugnance at fulfilling driven her to the step she had taken, the primary duty of a mowher, that of by his arbitrary conduct towards her suckling her own jufant.--As soon as he deplored the improbability of her she could escape froin her room, she ever being happy with such a man-she committed all maternal ties to a wet admitted it--he again deplored it-and nurse, and entered with renewed delight thus proceeding in full irot and entire upon all her former pursuits – The concurrence of sentimentthe inter: wcarisome monotony of the cradle's view finished by his promising to call rock, was exchanged for the rapid upon hier at her father's, and pointing gallop of the feet hunter, and the out to hin the unavoidable necessity wailings of ber infant were disregarded for what she had done- the sequel you for the more cheering cry of a pack of will of course anlịcipate in a few days fox hounds.--The wretched husband saw before the pretensions of either party and feltin his very soul the misery which could be deliberately decided upon, Mrs. awaited him, and yet had not resolution M and her fox-hunting friend de. enough to stay the progress of his camped for the Continent. -learing her forebodings. If she vouchsaled to en-. husband in a state of distraction, aud a ter the pursery once a day, it was prey to all that self-reproach, which merely to meet the unconscionable å sensible but irresolute inan always wish of her Moody Parson, as she de. feels, when as a husband he finds himcorously called her husband-and if she self the victim of his own ill-placed Now and then descended so low as to confidence and injudicious indulgence. leave the stable for the kitchen, and Had the luckless M. used bis to give directions to the cook, it was conjugal authority at first, by compelonly to quiet the slip-shop discontent of ling this child of nature to obey against hier reverend rib!-All this could not ber will, she would, like other way. last- the hapless M-'s uxorious ward children, have felt and submitted slavery, at length became too galling to the necessity-and as all these pupils for him quietly to wear the chain of nature are children of babit, he of subserviency to such outrages of might have formed her mind to the bis doniestic anticipations. — He ven. subjugation of duty-and as we are all tured to expostulate--she laughed at of us more or less inclined to practice his remonstrances, and mimicked the what we have been taught to adopt, she gravity with which they were made- would bave gone through the characters he threatened to break up bousekeep- of a wife and a mother, at all events, ing — she cooily replied ! as you with decent conformity-and this by please, Sir, but you will first have the the mere habit of doing the same thing goodness to provide me with a residence continually, would have become in time suitable to the fortune which I brought just as satisfactory, as following a fos, you.”—“ He urged her to consider her or substituting the stanle for the nur. infant, she assured him that he was better sery. - Your instance Mr.-, proves able to nurse the brat than herself-the that she who can be induced to obey altercation increased--and she finished without the will, at first, may in the the dispute by ringing for her groom to end be inclined to voluptary obedience saddle Gimgrack, and attend her to her --my tale proves, that when once the falber's.- le meiled, and implored her will of a woman is allowed to act
without constraint, in deviations from “ this was not the villain's molive, as it consistency of character, it soon asserts happened ; for, at that time, do Proa dangerous pre-eminence over duty, testant was allowed Christian burial in and giving the reios to passion, over France; and, although he bad not leaps every boundary of honor and shrunk from debasing the unhappy wo. virtue.-I must tell you in addition to man below all that could make life de. my story, that his wife was returned sirable to her, yet be could not endure upon M. -'s hands, by her villainous the thought of her not returning to seducer, who sent her home in a coffin her natural corruption in a bailowed about three months after her elope. grave." ment. - It seems, that he could not
“ Pray, Mr.
-,"asked Lady S; brook the temper he had so vilely taken “hy what law of affinity are we to advantage of, and had liberally disc apply these two instances as elucidating peosed that chastisement which she my friend's position of the possibility of deserved, and which he was brute obeying without the will?" etrough to inflict-the miserable woman “The instance which I have adduced," then, in all the paugs of fruitless re answered Mr. ---," proves, I think, morse, calied to mind the tender for- that where caprice exists without illbearance of ber injured husband, and temper, the folly of perverse inclinations her cruel desertion of her first born and uncomforinable impressions may be that passionate ebullition of spirit with prevented by a manly and decided rewhich she had resisted his will, expressed sistance on the part of the husband, acas that will was in the most affectionate companied with affectionate remon. expostulation, now sunk powerless be strance and earnest expostulation.neath the arm of a ruffian adulterer - And hence that obedience to which the she could not bear the horrible contrast will of the wife may at first have relucof what she might bave been and what tantly submitted, may become, in the she was -- one vight, therefore, when she end, an act of just feeling, both as it bad rushed from his merciless grasp in relates to duty and to sentiment; to the all the anguish of such conflicting understanding and the heart. The cirthoughts, she threw herself into the cumstances of Mrs M's bistory Seine, and in suicide, put an end to an plainly enough point out the necessity existence, which, whilst she lived, she for constraining such a mind as beris kbew not how to value aright, and by actual coercion of authority; for, when she had discovered its real worth had Mr. M allowed bimself to rein the disappointments of her vicious Aect that he was the guardian of his contempt of it, she threw away in a wife's happiness, as well as the judge of premature death.
his own, he would have seco that, as 'Pon honour," cried Captain Otto, she felt so little concern about either as stilling a yawn, “ You have made out to commit both by the most childish a most melancholy catastrophe -- and extravagancies, it was his duty to use very amusing I protest. Wha-ba-t do imperative injunction, instead of soothyou think of this love story about mur. ing persuasives, and to exact submission der, Mrs. - ? I swear it has quite up- by command if he fouod it could not be set my nerves.”
obtained by entreaty:”. Has it so," said Mrs.
Now, " Which command, I presume," said from as much as I have heard of it (for Ladys-," he ought to have followed faith, Captain, my ioclination to yawn up with due chastisement, as it has was well nigh lost in a sound doze), I already been gently hinted." think it is by no means so duli a history “Not so, Madam,” replied Mr. as you would make it out to be. Í 16 believe me I am do advocate for conshould like to have seen how the parson jugal conflicts of that sort-for it would Jooked when he unpacked his parcel of always be more adviseable that before returned goods."
such a dreadful alteroative be resorted " Good heavens, Mrs.
to, the less violent, though, perhaps, claimed Miss G-,“ how can you not less afflictive, should be tried--that talk so !. I declare I cannot conceive of separation ; since, if the wife is rethe motive for the wretch's sending solved to quarrel with her own opporback the corpse of his wife to Mr. tunities of being happy, she certainly M-: except it was to add insult to ought not to be permitted to destroy injury."
the peace of a man who, by every Why, no," said the manager's wife, anxiety of affectionate iudulgence, is
disposed to consult and secure her best portion of criminality to bring against satisfactions.”
the wedded part of your sex?” “ You are perfectly right,” observed Wby, Doctor,” replied Mrs. Sir B," and if a woman is so much " that may be, and you will have the of a fool as to throw away her own feli goodoess to take into your calculation city by an atter disregard of her duties that the odds are fearfully increased as a wife, the natural conclusion must against the man who thrice braves the be, that she has not seuse enough to evils of the married state.” understand them-she must, therefore, “I willingly acknowledge the justice be eontented with such treatment, as of your retort, Madam, get may it not an idiot would be compelled to endure be possible to balance these odds by a and be made to yield to constraint with prudent selection of the wheat from ihc out the conviction of its reasonableness, tares." since she who will not comprehend the • How know ye, my good sir, the latter should be taught to feel the for one from the other, until they sbew mer."
themselves in the soil which they bare “Indeed, Sir B,"exclaimed Mrs. fallen in ?"
your plan is a very summary By certain specimens, madam, one, if we are to jofer from the instruc wbich have reduced the possibility unto tion which you prescribe, that if a wife a very near approximation to certainty, does not choose to admit the force of Such, as I am sorry to say, our daily her lord and master's argument, she must observation of many individuals in mar. cxpect to feel the weight of his arm ; ried life present us with." and, in such a case, if the wife is to be “ Well, sir, at that rate, then, you treated as an idiot, the husband must can have no fear of your being among be content with being looked upon as those miserable objects of the baronet's a brute.”
pity, as the odds must thus be reduced By the mass, Madam,” said the with you to those of three to one in Baronet," you ladies would place your
your favour." husbands in a very pitiable dilemma ; “ Doctor,” cried the baronet, “I for if they, in their irrational excess of congratulate you upon the point being affection, allow you to presume upon decided so inuch in your favour by so their indulgence, they run the risk of good a judge of possibilities and probabeing brutified by your ingratitude ; bilities as the lady who has taken up and, if they are resolved to preserve the argument." your character and their own dignity, Here Mr. resumed his question, they are characterized wilh lhe civilized by observing that “ a hiot is thrown epithet of brutes - so that, miserable out by Dr. Hawkesworth, in the 25th beings as they are in either case of in. puniber of his Adventurer, which it dulgence or restraint, they must expect would be a most acceptable acquisition either dishonour or disrepute. To be to society to improve iuto a practical sure, the character is more agreeable form-pamely, to demonstrate,a priori, than the condition ; but it is a moot how misery may be avoided in that point with me, whether sbe who unjustly slate which is generally agreed to be affixes the one, would not with as little capable of more happiness than any compunction of conscience contrive olber.' the other."
This, I think, has already been “Iu truth, Sir," rejoined Mrs. done,” said the poet. “ by our impior. “ I cannot at all conjecture how you tal Milton; and that it is a demonstra. are to settle the point; that's a matter tion a priori is evideut, from his having for your own consideration. I venture, grounded it in the conduct of our first however, to suggest to you, that the parents during their state of innocence. miserable beings whom you so earnestly Many are the passages in which, with compassionate, are found, in ninety all the beauteous digoity of poetic dic. cases out of a hundred, to be the authors tion, he describes the gentle yielding of of their own misfortune."
our first mother to the will of Him “ But, Madam,” observed the Rev. whom she regarded as the • Author and Doctor R,“ peradventure there be Disposer.' The following is among the one found in the hundred which prove shortest yet most expressive descrip. the wife the aggressor, may it not be tion of ibis affectionale obediencesaid that such a number is a large pro