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months, especially January, which for 'ists between the junior and the elder What
called younaoa'r ; brauches of the families concerned hence one of the characters in Terence the romantic seosibilities of the former affirms, the soothsayers had forbidden are counteracted by the prudential disto enter upon matrimony till winter sent of the latter -- contradiction aug.
ments the fame, and fans it into an Arusper vetuit ante brumam autem quid novi Negotii incipere
ardour which the young people decide
is irresistible--it consumes all filial re". Until the seasonable time of year,
flection-and in a moment which they When frosty a cather binds all things, the
choose to consider as a favourable oppriest, Counsell'd us by all means to put off mar
portunity of breaking through all pariage.”
rental restraint, they throw themselves I could not refrain from thus remind upon the issue of one irretrievable reing those inclined to wedlock of the solve, as the point of possibility on
which all the success, prosperity, and propitiousness of the present season to an undertaking so desirable ; if at least happiness of their future life are prewe may credit the authority of Martial, cariously suspended. Now if love is
to be estimated according to its prione of those persons not much in the babit of patronizing the doleful; by
mary principles of generous anxiety to nature, on the contrary, a very merry
promote the welfare of its object, we fellow, indeed by far too inerry, who, in
shall not readily discover ils original his enumeration of the expedients to a
character in such precipitancy of the happy life, mentions, amongst the rest, at the expense of any virtue, the pure
will — for when its gratification is sought a good wife; or, as he felicitously cx.
suit must partake of the nature of presses it, “Non trislis torus, el lamen
vice; and any young man and woman pudicus."
who feel no hesitation at involving
each otber in a probable evil, cannot posA CONVERSAZIONE,
sess those exalted sentiments of dis(Continued from Vol. LXXII. page 506.) affection is uniforinly regulated.
interested regard, by which a moral TEXT to love at first sight," said I might follow up this assertion by the
Mr. -,“ may be reckoned conlinual evidence of its truth which that light of passion called a run-away such improvident unions are daily prematch. It would doubtless be a matter senting to our observation. There apof some difficulty to persuade a panting pears, indeed, to be a kind of retri. couple, in the mid:t of their race to the butive judgment following them, which hymeneal altar, that they have mis- excludes them as it were from that felis taken the ignis futurs of rash desire for citous enjoyinent which the parties too the pure light of genuine affection, and rashly pronuised themselves. It would that true love cannot exist in the breast seem as if the violation of filial duty of either, if each does not consult the bears with it the brand of divine dis. happiness of the other, rather than the pleasure in the disappointment. For consummation of an attachment which, certain it is, that if love, or that paslike the iron-cement, holds logether no sion of the mind which inclines the longer than while it is kept out of hot sexes to each other, be the principle water. I venture, however, to assert, which originates resistance to parental that all the consequences of such a self- autliority in the hearts of two young constructed union converge towards a persons, it is in such instances of a premature dissolution of every tic which questionable nature, and may justly both religion and nature combine to be regarded as a mere selfish emotion, forin as the suresi medium of conjugal which induces them to consult their felicity-and that love, under the inte individual satisfaction at all risks, even Quence of which the hasty connexion of their own future comfort:-and as is formed, is uiterly devoid of affec filial piety is the purest affection that tionate consideration, as far as its sen can have possession of the human sitiveness acts before marriage and its breast, any atiachment that makes the sympathies after. In the first iustance, sacrifice of this lovely virtue necessary let it be supposed that two young per- to ensure its success, must be devoid of sons meet, fall in love, and go through that ingenuousness which constitutes the wbole routine of surreptitious in the most engaging quality of every tercourse-a difference of opioion ex. young person's social character. It is
hot iberefore, to be wondered at, if the blameable party :-siace, with what. neat is beguo with the surrender of ever ardoor the lover may press his su it, bec moral obligation, should lead to if he would gaio ber confidence at the the design. rd of another : - and it may expense of ibat which she should put be taisa.suferred, that a disobedient in her parents, she ought instantly daughiei sunt never make an affection to suspect bis motives, and resist bis
presumption." Here ide romance of Miss Julia's " I believe, Mr. -," observed mina louk alarm Good Heaveus! the Baronet's Sisier, " these glaring Mr. - do you mean to throw all improprietjes seldom happen but among the edia which you take upon your the weakest and the vaidest of our sex. al la altach to what you are pleased Pride, caprice, and a foolish notion to call run-away matches.-upon the of notoriety, as often lead to them kenale: Really, Sir, I could almost as love." call this illiberal-Can you suppose that “ And I'll tell you, sister,” cried the aby young woman would be so inde. Baronet,“ how these previous qualicate as to propose an elopement to lities are engendered in a young girl's her lover :-If she becomes disobedient, mind-those pestiferous productions, abo mkes her so ? Surely he who takes novels, which poison her sensibilities an undue advantage of bis influence with the contamination of a thousand over ber."
romautic folites, persuade her that " My good young lady,” replied she is born to be a heroine, and that Mr. "what can I say to rescue the wise precaution of her parents is myself from so heavy an accusation? Dothing less than persecution, and duI would not be deficient in respect for tifulness nothing more than a tame the amable part of the creation; yet submission to their despotic dictate.” I will confesa, that I heartily wish “ Perhaps tuo, Sir B," added there were no room for the reinark the Poet, some of these edifying lesubich bas produced your question, be. sons may be gleaned from the late effutause, in common courtesy, I must an sions of our modern bards—who seem swer the interrogatory, and I lament to have created their heroes and heto say it will be to ibe disadvantage roines for no other earthly purpose of ber wo admits the indiueoce you than to prove, that filial regard is one talk of. I do not presume to declare of those adventitious qualifications that the female makes the proposal which may be observed by a daughter -bot I go so far as to josist, that while just so long as it does not interfere be carnes on a correspondence and with her more empassioned fervours: intimacy which she is conscious are con- and that the anxieties of a parent are trary to the will and the knowledge only the pretexts of ignorant super of her parents, if she has any thing stition, or the unwarrantable assunipat all in view, she must necessarily tions of tyrannical usurpation, in opexpect that the clandestine offer will position to those natural rights of self. be roade lo ber; and there is, I think, government to which they assert every a much indelicacy io this part of her daughter of Eve bas an unalievable claiia conduet, as there would be in the pro from the moment that her heart becomes posal which you hint at.-And let me susceptible of contrary inclinations to reply to your ol ber question, by asking those which duty demands.” you why she should be disobedient at " And do you not think, Mr. T—" all :-You will doubtless admit, that said the Manager, “ that some of our the doty is more to be esteemed than Pièces du Theoire inculcate a tolerable any thing or any person that may pre large proportion of this same self-comvail upon us to break through it ; and placency, especially those which the let it be allowed by you also, that morbid feeling of the German school has so long as she is aoxious to fulfil her produced in which it is représented to duty, do undue influence will persuade be the very excellence of a young wo. her to the contrary and that certainly man's wistiom to outwit the old folks, may be called an undue infuence which aod to squander every prudential resersubverts a better principle than the vation with which their parental care gbe it substitutes In fact, I must bad stored ber mind, upon the first unbazard your displeasure, if I am to principled fellow who can fatter ber speak the trutb upon this point.-the into ibe belief that he has a greater female is, in nine cases out of len, claim to ber beart than they."
“ Whatever may be the source of parent perceives the growing lendresse, such misjudging conduct,” replied Mr. and calculating very differently for their
" the result is too frequently daughter's future condition in life, from found to be altogether adverse to that what she herself does, imposes an aueven tenor of conjugal consideration thoritative joterdict upon all contiwhich ought always to blend a wife's nuation of the acquaintance. Theo affection with her duties. These du- she finds berself placed precisely in the ties I do not pretend to discuss, but situation of some hopeless love-sick il may be decided upon I fear with heroine of romance ; laments her mi. too much evidence against the wife, serable fate, exclaims against the hardthat the neglect of them proves be- heartedness which thus crosses ber first yond a doubt the entire absence of love, begins a clandestine correspondgenuine regard for her husband ard ence, and fioishes it by leaving a letter her children ; this at once exposes upon her toilette, to acquaint those the inconsiderateness with which the who gave her birth, and brought her first attachment was formed; and shews up in parental indulgence, that sbe that she mistook a childish flutt'r could no longer live without the object of passion for the more amiable sted- of her affections, that she has yielded to fastness of ingcouous love It is not his generous and disinterested importhen so difficult as it might be sup- tunities, and by the time that they shall posed, to distinguish such a passion have read that letter she will most profrom that affectionate anxiety which bably have united with his name and a good wife will always display to con fortune the future condition of their sult and secure the happiness of her dutiful daughter ! husband, as indissolubly united with Now I pronounce it impossible that her own."
such a girl can ever make an affectionate The Manager's Wife here interposed partner for life and although she deher opinion, thai “She seldom knew serves no pity, yet perhaps we may be any sensible girl, wbose mind was con- somewhat inclined to assert, that her pasistently improved by a sound educa. reuts themselves may be considered as in tion, that had allowed herself to discard great degree the authors of her folly add thus unhesitatiogly all prudential re their own disappointinent, from the unBection, and precipitate herself into so wise gratification which they felt at the rash a debasement of her sex's dignity, outside acquirements which ihey were so and so improvident a forfeiture of lier anxious she should possess, even to the claim to the respectful regards of so- neglect of the more substantial culticiety. Perhaps Mr. may add vation of her head and heart. As soon another cause for the consequence as this accomplished young lady awakes which he has made out. The trippery from the dream of ber vanity, she finds of a fashionable female boarding school the foud vision in which all her roman. is, I think, well calculated to produce tic expectations were absorbed, fled for those vaio ideas of personal induence, ever--and all the reality of ber fate which lead a silly Miss who has just left opens upon her. The flippant professchool, to take it for granted that every sions of ber husband cease the adınirainan who sees her must fall in love with tion which her school.girl qualifications her; and that the superficial accon). raised in his breast is exchanged for plishments which she has wasted her a cold tolerance; and he with whom time and the property of her parents she was content to pass her life in a in acquiring, must make an irresistible cottage, now grows weary of the sameinspression upon every young fellow ness of repetition with which she runs whom she condescends to indulge with over the artificial catalogue. Her pride the display of them. Hence it often becomes burt, and she has recourse to happens, that some foppish boy as sense remonstrance-but the complaint of Jess as herself regards her as a paragon pride is always made with that self. of feinale attraction - Batlers her into reference which shuts our beart against the same conviction ; breathes out a ils plea-from remonstrance to refew unincauing protestations of un- proach tbe interval is but small-the alterable devotion to her charms, and chapter of love is brought to an endpursues, by his frivolous attentions, the and mutual indifference fills up the readvantage which her vanity permits maining pages of the story.". him to suppose be bas gained over her “ Ob, dear madam!" exclajmed Miss pride ; until the vigilant eye of the Julia, "what a frightful picture have.
peo drayı-if such be the unvaried se. their wretchedness will not proceed quel of these unions, where can affec. from any self-upbraidings of disobe. fua be found ?”
dience towards their parents, and al" Where?" cried the Baronet ; "why low me to tell you, sister, that I know in the experience of parents, to be sure, many a girl, who, afier having mar. child-Only let that regulate your choice, ried for love, as the saying is, would and depend upon it you will never have give her whole stock of it for the car. yourself to blame."
riage which she rejected.” "But, Sir B —, are parents to fall Then all I can say,” replied the in love for their children ?” asked Cap. Sister, “is, tbat such a girl deserves taid Otto.
to be wretched-and the natural in"Or," cried the Baronet's Sister, "are ference to be drawn from your reprethey to command them to love by a sentation of ber miod, can be nothing Kcale of proportion, graduated according else than this, that it could never know to the rise and fall of stocks, or the va- what upfeigned affection is, and whether loe of land ?”
she rode in her carriage or not, she must “ Or," added the Journalist, “ are be equally disqualified by such a printhey to carry their happiness to market, ciple for making either berself or her and employ tbeir parents as the brokers husband happy.' to dispose of it to the highest bidder?” Here the City Curate, fioding that
"Wby truly, good people," replied the Baronet's Sister possessed so congeSir B, " it seems that vone of you nial a turn of sentiment with bis own recollect bow very promptly these ruo- hopes, insinuated, with a due portion of away gentry také upon themselves to cautious deference, “ that doubtless it dispose of their parents' property as was higbly becoming of children to well as of themselves, and I do not see attend to the wishes of their parents why this should be the case without in so momentous a concern as that their condescending to ask some pre- of marriage, yet it might, perbaps, Tious consent to both. Suppose, there: be urged, on the other hand, that fore, that this consent be withheld, and it was the duty of parents also to upon the grouods of sober.minded re consult the wishes of their children, lection, do you oot think that the de- when their acquiescence would not at cision demands some deference from the all prevent them from being respectably children? Or is Love so good a fioan. settled in life, for nothing could be cier as to be able to produce supplies more true than that wealth alone could for the exigencies of the married stale, never bestow happiness; and I am sure oat of a few rhapsodical epistles, or the Sir B-thinks with me, that it should more real sufferings of an unavailing not be made the sole object, when so repentance. Every old woman in the much is at stake as the felicity of a parish has an answer ready, "When whole existence.” Poverty comes in at the door, Love The Baronet turned upon his chair flies out at the window' - Marry, in with much deliberation ; and listing haste, aod repent at leisure' - And what one leg over the opposite knee, rethink you will become of affection when marked, in a sarcastic tone, that " dissatisfaction attends the performance thing could be more true than the of duty. How cao two people live upon Reverend Gentleman's observation, affectionate terms, who every hour of and he had no doubt of his concurs their lives see new cause for bciog dis- rence in the suggestion, that if wealth coalented with each other ?"
alone could not bestow happiness, po** But, my dear brother," rejoined the verty alone had as little power to effect Aunt of Julia, “ have we not frequent il, and that of the two, perhaps, the instances of girls being made wretched preferere might be challenged for the for ever who bave been extolled as mir- former, &s better providing for the profors of filial obedience, because they bable attainment of it thau the respec. surrendered a justifiable affection to the table settlement of a single curacy with Caprice of parents, or, if you please, to the double burden of an unportioned their great care, in placing their chil- wife.” dren, in a higher condition of life than The Curate made an e Tort to laugh that to which they were themselves off the repule which he had received ; willing to aspire ?"
and taking a pivch of sufl' out of the it may be so," said the Baronet, Manager's box, which was most ope, bow and then ; but at all events, portunely opened at the instant, of Europ. Mag. l'ol. LXXIII. Jan. 1818.
fected to enjoy the rude remark of the up for it,” said the Baronet, “ when Baronet, by assuring him, “ that he you get home, l'}f warrant you.-And should rather be preferred to a good as some recompense for Mr. 's kind living first, before he married for willingness to solve your paradox, I
heartily wish you all the inclination to Mr. now reminded the parties obey which he has shewn to entertain." who had joined in this conversation, This candid wish of Sir B-was an“ that as he might hope be had proved swered by a Humph! scarcely articu: his position, that a woman might love Jated through the teeth, and by a signiwithout affection, aod that woman a ficant glance at Lady S; who rewife too, he would trespass a inoment plied by another Humph! somewbat longer by carrying on the proof, to more emphatic than her friend's-and demonstrate that she might also obey both again resumed their former affeet. without the will.' Perhaps,” conti. ed indifference, when Mr. pronued he, “this will naturally follow ceeded with his argument. from the other-since a wife who does
(To be continued.) not admit affection among her conjugal essentials, will hardly be found to the Editor of the European Magazine. to adopt obedience as the spontaneous effort of her will."
VE prevalence of the disease called By this time Mrs.
Catarrh, or common Cold, and the so had altered their quiescent posi- various and opposite methods by which tion--and the former looking at her its cure is attempted, by those who are husband with a frown that she attemptnot in the habit of consulting a medical ed to blend with a half smile, but which practitioner, form a sufficient excuse for only produced a sneer by the unna my troubling you with the following tural combination, begged, for G-d's remarks, which are intended to estasake, he would bring bis long, winded blish a plan of treatment more appro. dissertation to an end-" I really feel, priate to the disease than what is usually Miss G-," observed the wedded adapted. Dame, “that I ought to apologize to Catarch is very frequently the prethe company for my unlucky obser cursor of more dangerous diseases ; vation, since it has been the cause and therefore it requires more attenof involving you all in as dull a train tion than is commonly paid to it. The of reasoning as ever proceeded from symptoms, by which it is characterized, the lips of any of the lords of the crea are su generally known, as to require tion-Good Šir,” addressing Mr. no equmeration. When it proceeds “ bave some mercy upon our time, froin common causes, and the concowhich I bumbly conceive might be mitant fever appears of an inflammamuch better employed. You forget tory nature, the first thing to be done that Mr. B- bad promised to siog is to reduce the febrile action of the that sweet song, 'Love bas eyes.'” system. This may be effected, first,
Upon my word,” said 'Mr. by bleeding, which, however, should “ I ain sorry to have deprived the only be had recourse to when the sympcompany of so great a treat, and I toms are very violent; secondly, by am ready to resign my subject to so saline purges ; as, excellent a substitute."
Epsom salts, 6 drams; “ No! No! Mr. _," exclaimed Infusion of seuua, 12 drams; the Baronet" you must finish your 'Tincture of senna, I dram , task, and your good lady must exemplify Simple syrup, I dram : the subject-you, Madam, must. obey Mix for a draught. without the will,' and listen like an Or, Powdered rhubarb, i scruple : obedient wife to the farther observa Sal polychrest, I dram: tions of your worthy busband."
Mix for a dose. “ Well,” rejoined Mrs. -, “! Either the draught, or powder, should think I bave the greater task imposed be taken at the commencement of the upon me—but, thank Heaven! I do symptoms, and repeated, if the state not suffer alone – 50 pray, worthy Sir, of the bowels require it. as Sir B-dignifies you, go on Saline diopborctics should next be but be pleased to bear in mind that administered; as, it is near twelve o'clock, and you have Water of acetate of ammonia, one had all the talk to yourself.”
ounce and a half ; “ Never mind, Madam, you'll make Distilled water, 6 ounces ;